[Task] support custom reject in `MemorySafeLinkedBlockingQueue`

[loongs-zhang]

Description

Now MemorySafeLinkedBlockingQueue just discard directly when #hasRemainedMemory returns true, it's better support custom reject.

see sofastack/sofa-rpc#1213 (comment)

Task List

• support custom reject in MemorySafeLinkedBlockingQueue.